Daughter You Can Make It: Introduction to our Newsletter

This newsletter was inspired by Bishop Dag’s book. Titled “Daughter You Can Make It” This is a great book and I recommend you read it if you are a woman. “This book is more than a mere narrative of the lives of women of the Bible. It has answers for all the questions, usually unspoken, that have resonated from the hearts of many women today. Through these pages we are taught how to see God in the so called ‘bane’ of a woman, like in childbearing, desiring a husband, or a child, sibling rivalry over man, gynaecological problems, and the like. The book does not merely discuss the challenges of the women of the bible but mirrors our very lives as women on this planet. It doesn’t leave us here it shows us God’s way. It demonstrates to us the unlimited investment that God has poured into female vessels: our sensitivity to the anointing like the woman with the issue of blood, our God-given perception into the future; not forgetting our role as peacemakers and intercessors as in the case of Abigail of the Bible, our peculiar temptations, “the way of escape” and much more. In essence, no matter what kind of woman one may be, no matter the challenges, achievements or attributes each one of us possesses, this book is a must-read”. excerpt from Bishop Dag Heward Mills welcome to our first Newsletter! Good reading! Love you all!

Welcome to our Newsletter! The introduction you read earlier is what Lady Adelaide wrote on the foreword of her Husband’s book. Her writings summarize the content of the precious book titled: Daughter You Can Make It! My goal is to encourage you, give you hope one day at the time, and concur with the author of the book that you can make it! Millions of women made it why not you? Today I want to discuss why women are loners with almost no friends.

Bishop Dag states in his book: “ Many women are embittered by their lives’ experiences. They are hardened, unforgiving and unmerciful. The painful experiences of life have washed away the beauty of faith and trust. “Never trust a man,” they say. They say to themselves, “Never trust another woman.” I notice how many women live in solitude. They are loners with almost no friends. “ (Excerpt From Daughter, You Can Make It Dag Heward-Mills.

Why are Women Loners?

Women may be loners with few friends for a variety of personal and situational reasons. 

1. Personality Traits: Introverted or highly independent women might prefer solitude or small, intimate circles over larger social groups. 
2. Past Experiences: Negative past experiences, such as betrayal or disappointment in friendships, can lead some women to be cautious or hesitant about forming new relationships.
3. Life Circumstances: Busy schedules, demanding careers, or family responsibilities can leave little time for socializing and maintaining friendships. 
4. Interests and Hobbies: Women with niche interests or hobbies might find it harder to connect with others who share the same passions, leading to fewer friendships. 
5. Social Dynamics: In some cases, women might feel excluded or find it challenging to fit into certain social circles due to differences in values, lifestyles, or interests.
6. Mental Health: Conditions such as anxiety, depression, or social phobia can impact one’s ability to form and maintain friendships. 
7. Personal Choice: Some women simply prefer solitude and feel content and fulfilled without a large social network.
   

Regardless of each individual’s situation It’s important to recognize that being a loner can be a personal preference and doesn’t necessarily indicate a problem; however it is important to determine When it can become problematic. This may happen when it affects an individual’s mental, emotional, or physical well-being.

1. Mental Health: Persistent loneliness and isolation can contribute to or exacerbate mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and feelings of worthlessness or hopelessness. 
2. Lack of Support System: In times of crisis, illness, or personal challenges, having a support system is crucial. Without friends, individuals might struggle to find the necessary emotional or practical support. 
3. Social Skills: Limited social interactions can lead to underdeveloped social skills, making it harder to connect with others and potentially leading to more isolation
4. Reduced Opportunities for Personal Growth: Friendships often provide opportunities for new experiences, learning, and personal growth. Without friends, individuals might miss out on these enriching experiences. 
5. Health Risks: Studies have shown that social isolation can negatively impact physical health, increasing the risk of conditions like heart disease, high blood pressure, and weakened immune function.
6. Professional Networking: In many careers, networking and forming professional relationships are important for advancement and opportunities. Being a loner can limit these professional connections. 
7. Quality of Life: A lack of meaningful relationships can diminish overall life satisfaction and happiness. Humans are inherently social beings, and social connections contribute significantly to our sense of fulfillment.

If being a loner starts to negatively impact an individual’s mental or physical health, personal growth, or overall quality of life, it may be important for them to seek support from a mental health professional or take steps to gradually build a supportive social network.

Prayer Corner: What do you believe in God for?

Send us your prayer requests

We believe in the power of prayer and the strength of a supportive community. If you have a prayer request, please share it with us. Whether you’re facing a challenge, celebrating a victory, or simply in need of a listening ear, we’re here for you. Let us join you in prayer, lifting your needs and praises to the Lord.

Our Monthly Bible Verse

WOMAN, THOU ART LOOSED from thine infirmity. And he laid his hands on her: and immediately she was made straight, and glorified God. Luke 13:12, 13

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Praying for you! 

Father, thank you for creating us as women and blessing us with the precious gift of life. As we navigate the challenges of our relationships, whether with fellow women or others, we trust in your presence with us. Help us to embrace our uniqueness and understand that you have special answers for all our prayers. We love how you made us and trust that you will grant us the wisdom to build meaningful relationships and avoid unnecessary isolation. I pray that you will send a friend to any woman who needs one. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Practical Tips

Setting and Achieving Personal Goals 
Break Down Your Goals into Manageable Steps Example Goal: Starting a Daily Reading Habit. Define: “I want to read for 15 minutes every day.” 

1. Break Down: Week 1: Read for 5 minutes daily. 
Week 2: Read for 10 minutes daily. 
Week 3: Read for 15 minutes daily. 
2. Timeline: Set weekly milestones. 
3. Track: Use a calendar to mark off each day you read. 
4. Stay Flexible: If a busy day disrupts your reading time, adjust by reading a bit more the next
day. 
4. Seek Support: Join a book club or find a reading buddy. 
5. Reflect and Reward: After completing a month of daily reading, treat yourself to a new book
or a special treat.

Follow these steps and you’ll find it easier to accomplish your goals, one step at a time. Remember, every small step brings you closer to your larger objective.